Show up STRONG.
100% committed to you and your word without all the personal baggage. Can you?
I say this a lot. But what does this mean?
I believe in showing up even if I have dropped a few balls (commitments and such). I believe in showing up even if I don’t feel like it. I believe in showing up with joy or with tears because I’m not perfect! Nobody is. I believe in showing up because you never know whom you will inspire or who will inspire you.
A son of my husband’s friend was getting married, and we attended the wedding. How exciting, their oldest and the first of their two boys getting married. A new beginning for two young kids. A family celebrating, a union of two coming together as one, and curiosity of a future to unfold before them.
Well, all that is fine and dandy until I had to get ready for the event. I live in comfort: yoga pants, sweaters, tennis shoes and such. COMFORT. So getting dressed up isn’t my favorite thing to do, especially when it is cold out.
The whole process was painful: dress, hair makeup and such, but especially when my Hag in the Attic comes out. I don’t want to go, this is too much work getting all dressed up. Oh, how I hate all of this.
Really, I get all worked up, but I wouldn’t not go. I committed, and quite frankly, it wasn’t about me.
This is really about two families coming together. One’s son and one’s daughter uniting in love. Not about my pain in the ass issues around getting all dressed up.
Everything in life is so much more than just us. Events, plans, the future; it is always bigger than we can see. However, faith isn’t about seeing, it is about feeling and letting go.
The ceremony was so beautiful with a lot of love, joy, and laughter in the room. God was present, and I am always a sucker for a wedding. To watch the parents be so proud of their kids, to watch the kids exchange their vows for their life together. It is always more than just about us.
So after I did my huff and puff act (so childish), I was able to settle down and go enjoy the wedding.
Like I said, I wouldn’t stay home and miss the magic. It is all about showing up, no matter what. Removing the personal baggage and be open to what lies ahead.
Peace & Love,
Kim
It has been a few years since I have been at a wedding but I agree that it is so wonderful to see the joy that surrounds the entire event. I am glad that you showed up for them and for yourself.
Thank you, Elise!
Well, you know me. The first thing I’m going to ask is “what did you end up wearing?” Ha!
Call me any time for ideas about comfy cocktail or formal wear. It can be done!!
Oh yes,I forgot that is your business. I will tell you over dinner! 😉
You pushed past the hag and you did it anyway, you so know the hag doesn’t want you to enjoy life, yet when we push past the pain it’s so worth it.
It always is, Kate!
Show up and show out! And by ‘showing up,’ we have to do it on OUR terms and definition of what our ‘breaking point’ may be, not on someone else’s. We can push through all the stuff we don’t want to do, but I believe in the end it should entail some sort of internal, personal growth. Like you going to the wedding…you pushed through because you wanted to honor your commitment. Good for you, Kim!
Thank you Valerie. I always show up unless I am sick. It isn’t about me when I make those commitments.
Your article is so true and it hit home for me.
Thank you Pam!
I’m also intrigued to know what you wore in the end? Well done for being committed to going and seeing it through. Glad you had a good time, it sounds like the ceremony was very special.
Thank you, Rachel. I do show up and tell myself, Kim it isn’t about you.
It sounds like a very special ceremony! I’m terrible for committing to things and then starting to dread going – but I always go when I’ve said I will!
Me too! I love what always unfolds.
I personally love weddings, but I feel that a lot with situations. I make plans and then when it comes time, I dread getting ready for it. lol
Yes, me too, Melissa, but I go if I have committed and it always turns out to be amazing.
Well done for ignoring the hag and seeing the joy unfold. Our baggage is only powerful if we let it beat us into submission. It’s never easy but you did it so yayy.
Thank you Paul. I do this with some commitments, but I dont let her win! 🙂
I have been in similar situations and have often given in to my comfort zone. Now, I will try not to and show up at weddings.
Yes Harshita, and not just for weddings.
so true, i prefer being comfortable and not a fan of dresses. but once you say yes it’s always hard to change your mind